Every once in a while, when I take the time to contemplate my life, my children and others that have come and gone, I am struck by the speed at which life has passed. I had another one of those moments last night as I visited my two youngest boys sleeping peacefully. My baby boy Owen is 6 already, and looking more grown up every day. My oldest boy is turning 15 this summer. I look back at pictures we have of him and I dancing to Santana's "Maria, Maria" and it seems like it was just yesterday (he was 3 at the time). Many of my life's memories are now 25 years old!The bible tells us in numerous places that our lives are but a breath that quickly disappears (Ps 39:5; 144:4). When we take the time to ponder these scriptures, we are struck by the quickness of our lives. One day we're 20 and can conquer the world, the next morning we're retiring, grey-haired and wondering what happened.
Thursday, June 30, 2011
Where does the time go?
Every once in a while, when I take the time to contemplate my life, my children and others that have come and gone, I am struck by the speed at which life has passed. I had another one of those moments last night as I visited my two youngest boys sleeping peacefully. My baby boy Owen is 6 already, and looking more grown up every day. My oldest boy is turning 15 this summer. I look back at pictures we have of him and I dancing to Santana's "Maria, Maria" and it seems like it was just yesterday (he was 3 at the time). Many of my life's memories are now 25 years old!The bible tells us in numerous places that our lives are but a breath that quickly disappears (Ps 39:5; 144:4). When we take the time to ponder these scriptures, we are struck by the quickness of our lives. One day we're 20 and can conquer the world, the next morning we're retiring, grey-haired and wondering what happened.
Monday, June 27, 2011
You need some advice?
When people find out that you're endeavoring to do something as large as planting a church, they all want to help...with advice. Not that I'm complaining, I won't pretend to know everything there is to know about the subject, and am more than willing to listen to those that have a piece of advice. The first piece of advice I got was the most useful so far (thanks SD!) His advice was to be prepared to compromise, but DO NOT compromise on your vision of the church. This was a mistake he made and has regretted it since. There are hills to die on, and those that you need to be more open about. Gotcha! Great advice! I've had others offer that we should hold off on the church launch until we get more people directly involved. Maybe some sound advice...maybe not. What makes a church? Biblically a church is a group of people (doesn't say how many) that come together to worship, to praise, and to be a family that loves one another in the sacraments and discipline. How many do we need to do that? Will we meet in a public place where people that want to come feel more at ease than in a home where it is 'less' comfortable? One of the issues about having more on board is that we can 'offer' more that way. What are we trying to offer? We (HCRBC) offer exactly what a church is supposed to be. We will offer what the Lord leads people to offer, and not until He sends them. For instance, we don't have a worship leader. We have a couple of volunteers that are willing to step up for the first worship date, but outside that, we don't have anyone in that role. Does that mean we should wait until we find someone? I don't think so. There are many ways to worship, we don't have to have the 10 piece band. We are not endeavoring to be something we're not, we will be what we are. At this point we're a group of people that love the Lord, and want to serve Him by starting a church plant and inviting others to join us. We will be what the Lord makes us, not what we think everyone will want to see. Will it be awkward if we meet in a larger public room and there's only 7 of us? Maybe, but the Lord will send who He sends, and if people are really put off by the openness of space then they are possibly coming to church to hide, and as we've already stated, HCRBC is not going to be a place of anonymity. We will be warm and welcoming regardless of size and space.
Sunday, June 26, 2011
Boys and girls and doing hard things
My wife and I are approaching our 11th wedding anniversary. I've learned plenty over the years, and have realized that I still have so much more to learn. One of the things I've learned is that just because something does not come naturally to me, doesn't mean that I'm off the hook for trying. Here's an example; I'm not romantic. When I think of 'romance', I think of flowers, but then my logical side kicks in and says "Why buy flowers that are going to die?" It's not that I'm cheap, I just don't see the point. I was so bad that for the 2 1/2 years I was courting my wife, I never bought her flowers...not once! Yet I now know that it would bring my wife great pleasure for her husband (me) to bring her pretty things like flowers to show her that I love her and think about her. I may have to even read books or blogs about romance in order to get ideas. I hate this idea, because I would like to think I'm intelligent enough to figure out some romantic ideas all on my own. I realize this is silly. Romance does not come naturally to me, so one of the ways I can improve on my knowledge and understanding of romance is to listen to others that love romance. There is nothing wrong with this. One of the reasons why I hate reading and asking hard questions about this stuff is because for me, it IS hard. The bigger question is "Is my wife worth it?"
Thursday, June 23, 2011
What to do about men...
I met another family yesterday. The wife goes to church, the husband does not. This is not new. Look around your church and see how many 'single' women are in the church...wearing a wedding ring. As I posted a couple of days ago, the number of women in the church vastly outnumber the men. The last pole I read for the U.S. was a 60-40 split. I would argue that in Canada, that split is even greater. I asked a good pastor friend of mine (SABB) what his take on the situation was, and he responded with the following "The thing with men is that if they are not in control they typically won't come period. I think a great way is to have a men's ministry, or something designed to encourage men to meet other Christian men in your church, that way they are familiar with who's in your church. If the man's wife is not on board, and she is against him coming, he will never come".
Wednesday, June 22, 2011
Small groups (living in community)
If we are to be loving one another as Christ calls us to, this requires us to do more than say "Hi" to one another as we pass each other in the foyer (pronounced 'foy - a, not 'foy-er') of our church. When we live in community, we get to know one another in ways that will allow us to help one another during difficult times and to celebrate our moments of triumph over those very difficulties, giving God His due together.
Saturday, June 18, 2011
Father's Day
550,000 - The estimated number of single-parent families headed by women in Canada in 2004. Every Sunday in America, more than 60 percent of the adults in our worship services are female. I've written on this issue a little here, but seeing how it's Father's Day, I thought it would be a good time to bring it back up. Our society is filled with adult men physically, but emotionally and spiritually, they are children. Our society has given men expectations of "get a job, keep a job, and watch a lot of sports". Have you watched how men are portrayed in commercials? sit-coms? dramas? We're a bunch of blathering idiots that everyone likes to laugh at. Are we portrayed this way because that is what we are? or is that what we've become due to lower expectations? I would argue the latter. There were examples of bumbling idiots on TV when I was growing up, but they were made fun of, not made to be the norm. The men were generally looked upon as responsible men, or good-guys in the least. Now? Put on your favourite jersey and grab a beer, ignore your wife and children, and watch a game or five. What, biblically, are we as men supposed to be? Great question, let's have a look.
Thursday, June 16, 2011
Sufficient?
If you were to take away all of the books of the world, would the Bible be sufficient? Where do we put our focus and reliance? Is it on God and His Word? or is it in programs, commentaries and books?
Wednesday, June 15, 2011
Love and Marriage
I first felt called to be a chaplain of the Calgary Fire Department after coming to Christ and having a heart for marriages. See, marriages in the CFD among other like-service careers are generally murder on marriages. We have a much higher divorce rate than your average person. The reasons? Fire, police and EMS generally attract "A" type personalities who are strong willed, have strong personalities, and tend to dominate or lead. In our fallen condition, we are all selfish at our cores, but with the "A" types we tend to be even worse, and when we don't get our own way, if we don't feel satisfied, we tend to look for that satisfaction elsewhere which leads all to often to divorce. One of the major reasons for divorce is the idea that the couple has "fallen out of love." This is a gross misunderstanding of what love is.
Saturday, June 11, 2011
The Historical Jesus
I had the opportunity to be a part of a very short conversation today about how do we know that we (Christians) are right, and that everyone else is wrong? What about Buddha? What about Islam? What about Hindi? There are 20 000 religions out there, how can we be sure we are right? How very post-modern. How can we be sure indeed. There are a number of different propositions we need to iron out before we can answer this question. We'll begin with history. There are a number of people that adhere to the notion that history cannot be known, only interpreted, and that interpretation is done solely by the 'winners'. The premise behind this argument is that nothing in history can really be known, and that all history is false to some degree, so we cannot trust it. There is a tendency to put history up against the surety of science. I would argue that while history cannot be done with the accuracy of practical science (provable, testable, repeatable experiments), we can be very sure about history if we are diligent in the research and evidence presented to us. If you ask a real historian whether or not they can be sure of the history that they proclaim as being true, they would give you the full monty of qualifications and testing that history must adhere to in order for the history to be considered accurate. It is not as simple as "because so-and-so said so!"
Thursday, June 9, 2011
Meaningful Membership (Why we're different part 6)
If you haven't been convinced yet that HCRBC is going to look and feel different than most churches, this should be the clincher. Can you tell me what it takes to be a 'member' in the church you're currently attending? I'll tell you what it took for me and my wife at the last two churches we've been members at. Church #1 required us to attend. Really, that was it. At no point were we baptized, approached about membership, courses...nothing. After a while we noticed that we were included in the church directory and every once in a while (when I could stomach the idea) I would go to the odd church congregational meeting. I even voted. I never asked anyone, no one ever approached me about what membership meant, we just...showed up! The second church had a few more steps in order to become a member in their church. You had to partake in believer's baptism (if you haven't done so already at a different church), and then stand in front of the congregation and be welcomed into the fold. Every church lands in a different place when it comes to membership, some are even born into the fold.
At Hill Country Reformed Baptist Church we believe that membership in a local church is both necessary and vital to the Christian in order to live a life of holiness that we are all called to. Although one does not need to be a member to come to HCRBC to hear the Gospel proclaimed, God does call us to be part of a local church body and therefore be a part of His body, of which He is the head. In order to become a member of HCRBC there are a few steps that must be done before you are recognized as a member. They are listed below.
1) Take a membership course that outlines the basic statement of faith (CNBC Statement of Faith) and sign a membership document stating you agree with the doctrines outlined.
2) Believers Baptism (or equivalent letter from like-believing church).
3) Join a community group of HCRBC members for weekly community fellowship and study.
4) Use the God-given spiritual gift(s) to grow and build the body of Christ (service in the church body).
5) To be a light in the community in a real and positive way (service in the community).
Questions or comments? Please leave a message here or send a private email to hillcountryreformed@gmail.com, or call us at 403-932-0519.
Wednesday, June 8, 2011
The Service (Why we're different part 5)
I don't know to what extent this trend is in the evangelical church today, but it would seem to me that the vast majority of churches today have a set pattern for the service. It usually begins with an opening song or two, followed by a very informal "greet those around you" 10 second break, followed by another 2-3 songs. Then come the announcements, then another 2-3 songs. Then children are dismissed to children's church, then the message begins. Once the message is over, then there is another 1-2 songs, followed by a dismissal of the congregation. At HCRBC we plan on being a bit different.
Tuesday, June 7, 2011
Elder led (Why we're different part 4)
In the Bible we have different positions in church leadership as spelled out in 1 Timothy and Titus. There are clearly two offices, one of Elder, and one of Deacon. The elders are the overseers of the church. They are the ones that set direction, feed and care for the flock. They are the ones that provide the sermons, the caring and discipline and discipleship of the flock. They are held accountable by each other, and there are some pretty stringent qualifications to be called overseer. Deacons are a position which are there specifically to serve the body so that the Elders can concentrate on the overall health and wellness of the body. This would include hospital visits, home visits, various ministries which deal with the physical and emotional needs of the flock. Deacon qualifications are likewise stringent as they represent the church in many types of ministries. Why Elder led? There are two main types of church 'governance' which are used today. You have Elder led, and congregational led churches. Elder led churches seem to be what is portrayed in the bible in both the Old Testament and New Testament by our understanding. There are both positives and negatives to both types, but we feel that the governance of the church according to scripture is by the Elders.
Sunday, June 5, 2011
Expositional Preaching (Why we're different, part 3)
Jesus said many interesting and wonderful things while He was here on earth. In St. John's Gospel in chapter 6, verse 35, He says "I am the bread of life, whoever comes to me shall not hunger, and whoever believes in me shall never thirst." In chapter 21:15-17 Jesus tells Peter not once, but three times "Feed my sheep." Lastly, in Matthews Gospel (28:20), Jesus instructs His disciples to "teach them all that I have commanded you." It is unfortunate that in most churches today, our pastors think that the congregation would like to hear more about news stories, personal philosophies and other such nonsense instead of doing as Christ commanded, which is to "feed His sheep." In order for the sheep not to starve to death, this requires the full reading and exposition of the scriptures. We feed on the Word of God, not on anything else. All too often not only does the preaching lack any real scriptural reading or application, it is a time for evangelism. Evangelism is what is supposed to happen during the week, by the congregation to a lost world, not by the pastor on a Sunday sermon.
Thursday, June 2, 2011
Why We're Different (part 2)
HCRBC is a Christ-centred, Family-integrated church. What this means is that everything we do from start to finish is centred around Christ and Him crucified. Our worship, our preaching, our fellowship will all be centred on Christ. By family-integrated we mean that we have a focus on keeping the family together as a unit. We do not split up our families when they walk in the door. Youth and children need to be present in the service for their own spiritual development and to see the parents in worship. We believe that Deuteronomy 6:4-9 makes it plain that it is the responsibility of the parents to teach and raise their children. By sending our children en masse to another area of the church to be 'taught' by volunteers not only takes away the feeding of the volunteers from hearing the Word preached, but it also puts the children into a situation where they will be more focussed on one another instead of focusing on Christ. The long-range plans of HCRBC is to be able to provide a place similar to a nursery that can house parents and children where they can still be a part of the congregation visibly, yet still hear the Word preached. It is the job of the church leadership to come alongside parents to assist them in the discipling of the children, it is not the job of the church to be the main discipler. Our churches today by-and-large have usurped the authority and teaching of the children away from the parents and therefore have created an extra burden on volunteers and ministry leaders that are to provide these services. At HCRBC we wish to give the responsibility back to the parents, and to come alongside them to help them in their walk as parents and leaders of the home.
Wednesday, June 1, 2011
What we're not (HCRBC)
Before we continue our series on what we are, Amy felt it imperative that we first describe what we're not. I agree, as we've already had setbacks and opposition from those that have seen or felt the wrath of reformers.